My daughters were born at 26 weeks.  There is aboslutely nothing that can be said to make being the parent of a preemie any easier, but please know that I will be praying for your friend and her daughter.  I talk to a lot of parents who are going through similar experiences to what we went through two years ago, so I am happy to answer any questions or give any suggestions to you or your friend.  If she's like me, she won't want to talk to anyone, let alone a stranger, any time soon, but if/when she is ready to talk, I'm happy to share experiences.  I kept a blog (and still do) during our daughters' hospital stay.  It may/may not help, but it is very detailed and discusses nearly every day of our hospital experience.  I've had several parents tell me it helped them.  The address is www.xanga.com/mamaoftwins21.  23 weeks is definitely very early, but we saw several babies that early leave perfectly healthy and normal.  One of the babies one of our daughters shared a row with for a few weeks was only 15 oz. when he was born and he was a fighter.  Your friend has a very tough road ahead, but hopefully it will have a happy ending. Please let me know if there is ANYTHING I can do to help.  I know what it's like to go through something like this and feel like you are all alone as a parent.

I'll keep her in my prayers... it's amazing what doctors can do today though!